{"id":191,"date":"2014-09-15T08:03:23","date_gmt":"2014-09-15T12:03:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/casit.bgsu.edu\/marblog\/?p=191"},"modified":"2025-02-22T09:26:33","modified_gmt":"2025-02-22T14:26:33","slug":"how-i-almost-met-dan-stevens-eight-times-on-a-mission-from-mar-part-iii-theres-a-dog-in-the-car","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/casit.bgsu.edu\/marblog\/how-i-almost-met-dan-stevens-eight-times-on-a-mission-from-mar-part-iii-theres-a-dog-in-the-car\/","title":{"rendered":"Personal Essay: How I Almost Met Dan Stevens Eight Times on a Mission from MAR, Part III: There\u2019s a Dog in the Car No. 3"},"content":{"rendered":"

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This is our third and final installment (read Part I: The MFA Can Kill You<\/a> and Part II: Gadaffi, Frogs, and Jungian Beetles<\/a>) of this special series about <\/em>Mid-American Review\u00a0(MAR), Dan Stevens of <\/em>Downton Abbey fame, and the post-MFA life. (Image, above: Ivan T)<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n

Part III \u2013 There\u2019s a Dog in the Car
\nBy Suzanne Hodsden<\/strong><\/h3>\n

The guy was everywhere, and it was weird.<\/p>\n

I was up and out of the house four days after surgery, and I stuffed my days full of appointments. Wherever I ended up\u2014job interviews, errands, apartment viewings\u2014he was either two steps ahead or two steps behind. Eastside, Westside. Uptown, Downtown. I\u2019m not a creature of routine, but it didn\u2019t seem to make a difference. Weird.<\/p>\n

It was like a gift from a distant aunt who doesn\u2019t write or visit. It\u2019s nice. It\u2019s lovely. But she\u2019s obviously never met me or was confusing me with someone else. What am I supposed to do with this?<\/p>\n

Let me be clear. He seems like a decent enough guy. Or maybe he\u2019s not. My point is, I didn\u2019t know. After a while, it got silly. What is the statute of limitations on introductions? How many times can you ignore someone before you admit you know who they are? What are the statistical odds of running into somebody that many times?<\/p>\n

In fairness, he sticks out. He\u2019s forty times prettier than the average Clevelander, and no one gave him the standard issue cargo shorts and sandals. Nobody told him that no one here wears skinny jeans and a baseball hat at the same time. It\u2019s like watching a blue dolphin leap out of a sink full of dirty dishes. A blue dolphin who drives a car with the erratic over-caution characteristic of senior citizens.<\/p>\n

Up until this point, Abby was the only person I told about any of this. According to her, it was because\u2014in her words\u2014Magic. Literary destiny.<\/p>\n

Magic is an excuse for seven-year-olds, I said. If I was magic and capable of supernatural phenomenon, being able to manifest the presence of British actors wouldn\u2019t make the list. Not when there was invisibility and teleportation on the menu.<\/p>\n

No. In the stark light of day, I prefer science. Magic was just something that covered up a long road of complicated math.<\/p>\n

To prove it, I started memorizing the faces of strangers and waiting for them to show up again. Redheaded girl with birthmark and pet pitbull. Goateed man with leg brace. I made notes. I must have memorized close to twenty faces and then spent days shuffling around muttering. \u201cC\u2019mon redheaded dog-girl, get back here. Don\u2019t let me down.\u201d No one ever reappeared.<\/p>\n

My roommate in college was an astrophysicist named Cindy. She has a PhD now and two small children. She does math for fun. For a variety of reasons, I trust her with my weird. I told her about my experiments, my research, and my results, and she offered this scientific conclusion: \u201cWow. You must really be bored.\u201d<\/p>\n

She had a point. I was busy with the job and house hunt, but nothing close to what I was. I hadn\u2019t been bored in four years. I\u2019d forgotten what it felt like.<\/p>\n

He continued to show up and in the oddest places. His presence on my path became so quotidian that I forgot I was supposed to be delivering a literary journal.<\/p>\n

\u201cMath, math, math,\u201d I chanted to myself, every time forgetting MAR 34.1 weighing down my bag. This was during the day.<\/p>\n

At night, I sat alone in my bedroom and tried to light a candle with my mind.<\/p>\n

***<\/p>\n

\u201cYou need a vacation,\u201d said Jill.<\/p>\n

The last week in June, she came for a visit. Together we\u2019d find me an apartment, deliver MAR 34.1, and raise a little hell. She stated all three objectives with the confidence the universe portions out to leggy blondes. As an added bonus of badassery, she\u2019s from Detroit. Together, we wouldn\u2019t fail.<\/p>\n

Both of us were way overdue for a holiday. Even when it started to rain, we ate our West Side gyros and jumped through rain\"crepe\"<\/a> puddles in the square like children. She hung out the side of the car and took pictures of the art deco statues guarding the Lorain Bridge. I showed her the exquisite glory that is Rising Star coffee. It was a great day.<\/p>\n

The next morning, she woke me up early. In addition to being tall and blonde, she\u2019s also a morning person. I scratched the sleep out of my eyes, and she pulled out the issue of MAR and shook it around.<\/p>\n

\u201cHow do we make this happen?\u201d<\/p>\n

I sniffed and looked around for coffee. \u201cWell, first we must dance naked under a gibbous moon. Cut our hands and become blood sisters.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cBe serious.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t know. I just. Live. And \u2026\u201d I spread out my hands in the universal gesture of TADA!<\/p>\n

\u201cAll right, then. Let\u2019s go live.\u201d<\/p>\n

Living for me involves bookstores, vinyl records, and modeling fashions from the 60s, so that\u2019s what we did, and we had a great time. We had our arms full of books and clothes and were heading to a French caf\u00e9 to drink some wine, happy as clams. Until the dog on Bridge Street ruined everything.<\/p>\n

***<\/p>\n

There\u2019s little in life that amuses me as much as a fat dog so when I saw one bouncing in the back of a white Buick, I pointed it out to Jill. She looked but as soon as she did, it ducked out of view.<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t see anything.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s there. Look.\u201d I swear that dog blew me raspberries before he disappeared again into the bowels of the car. She looked, and he was gone.<\/p>\n

\u201cListen.\u201d Her voice was slow and measured. \u201cDo you think there\u2019s a possibility that all of this is in your head?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cYou\u2019re asking me if I hallucinate British actors and fat dogs?\u201d<\/p>\n

She looked away and shrugged.<\/p>\n

I wanted to say yes. Run back and forth between the real and the imaginary often enough and someday I might just let go and let my sanity pop in a power line like a Mylar balloon. Maybe it already had, and I didn\u2019t notice. There was the issue of life choices. I could have gone to dental school, but no. I\u2019ve been a derelict. I\u2019m in my thirties for god\u2019s sake. I\u2019ve neglected to establish a marriage, a baby, a 401K. I could have done those things, but instead, I wrote a novel. How stupid is that? Every week there\u2019s another article declaring the novel dead, and I have a better chance of joining NASA and being shot to the moon than ever publishing one. What had I done? These are the actions of a crazy deluded idiot.<\/p>\n

But I didn\u2019t say that. If I had, I\u2019d have cried right there on the sidewalk and that wouldn\u2019t do. Instead, I gritted my teeth and told her: \u201cThere\u2019s a fucking dog in that fucking car.\u201d<\/p>\n

She sighed. \u201cOk.\u201d<\/p>\n

She walked on ahead of me, and I followed a few step behinds. As soon as I saw her spine stiffen, I knew what she saw. Dan Stevens. Smiling from plastic chair on an outdoor patio.<\/p>\n

***<\/p>\n

Coincidence? It would take a team of mathematicians forty square feet of white board to work out the equation on that one. Better maybe, definitely easier, to just say magic. Maybe the universe cavorts from time to time on my side. Maybe it just wants to make me laugh. Either way, my spirits lifted considerably, and I vowed on the spot to buy this guy\u2019s movies forever. Blue-ray and everything.<\/p>\n

I smiled, and I waited for Jill.<\/p>\n

We\u2019d agreed ahead of time that we\u2019d cover my month of rudeness by having her be the one to recognize him. At first I thought she\u2019d missed it because she just kept walking. By the time we reached the next intersection, she was bug eyed and wordless. She didn\u2019t miss it.<\/p>\n

\u201cHe\u2019s so beautiful. It\u2019s like looking into the sun.\u201d She had one arm draped dramatically over her eyes as if, from two blocks away, he still had the power to blind her. She sat down in the middle of the sidewalk.<\/p>\n

By the time I dragged her back, he was gone. We ordered a bottle of wine and toasted our failures and shortcomings.<\/p>\n

***<\/p>\n

\"Wine\"<\/a>We were drunk when he showed up again in the intersection.<\/p>\n

He hung out in his car at the green light for a while. Doing what, I don\u2019t know. Nothing? Changing a CD? Making a phone call? Thinking: \u201cOh god, there she is again. What does it mean?\u201d He\u2019s a writer too, after all.<\/p>\n

\u201cDo something,\u201d said Jill.<\/p>\n

But what could I do? Run into the street? Jog past and throw the journal on the windshield? MAR 34.1 deserves better, and my luck, he\u2019d hit the gas and I\u2019d be back in the hospital. No, thank you. He turned the corner, and as soon as he did, I started laughing.<\/p>\n

The very best kinds of laughs are the ones with no clear origin. These are the ones that go on with no signs of stopping. We had no idea why we were laughing, but we were. Like a cage full of gibbons. Why is it funny? \u2013I asked, but she couldn\u2019t stop laughing long enough to answer me. We laughed until we collapsed, exhausted. It felt great. Fantastic even.<\/p>\n

Then it started to rain.<\/p>\n

\u201cNo.\u201d I stood up, wine wobbly and shook my fist at the sky. \u201cDon\u2019t you even think about it. Go away. Don\u2019t you see I\u2019m having a good time here?\u201d<\/p>\n

As if it\u2019d heard me, it stopped. As quickly as the clouds had appeared, they left. The rain was replaced by warm light, the post-rain glimmer of a revenant sun.<\/p>\n

\u201cHoly shit,\u201d said Jill. \u201cMaybe you are magic.\u201d<\/p>\n

I\u2019m as surprised as you are.<\/p>\n

Post script: I\u2019ve compared my story with others and found a number of consistencies. If you, or a loved one, has recently gone through an MFA, you\u2019ll find that these mood fluctuations, over-reactions and crises of self-doubt are typical and will probably pass. Cuddle with your cohort as needed. Don\u2019t be a banker. There\u2019s enough bankers, but this world needs its story-tellers and that\u2019s what you are. It\u2019s time to tell your parents the truth.<\/em><\/p>\n

\"Suzanne<\/a><\/em>Suzanne Hodsden is <\/em>Mid-American Review‘s Technical Editor.
\nHer fiction appears most recently in<\/em> Crab Orchard Review. Find
\nher on Twitter: @zannahsue<\/a>.<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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